I am a gay man with a long-term partner. He recently moved away so we are currently in a long-distance relationship. We have mostly good sex when we are together, although my sex drive is normally higher than his. When I am alone, with little to do, I become bored and instantly think of masturbating. I have gone some months without it before but always come back to it; I feel a bit addicted.

I have been comforting and supportive, saying he must have found this very confusing and it doesn't necessarily mean he is gay etc … but in truth I am knotted up inside, as like all parents I have hopes and visions for my children, and this was never on the agenda. He attends an all-boys school, rarely has the chance to socialise with girls and lives with his mum and two sisters I have left the family home. Should I tell his mum? Should I block the porn sites? When leaving a message on this page, please be sensitive to the fact that you are responding to a real person in the grip of a real-life dilemma, who wrote to Private Lives asking for help, and may well view your comments here.

MPs and campaigners are calling for urgent action to stop videos of rape, revenge porn and child abuse being posted on Pornhub as traffic to the site booms amid a worldwide Covid lockdown. Pornhub owners Mindgeek have used the coronavirus lockdowns to promote their site, giving free Premium access to people living in isolation in Italy, Spain and France. It is free to access, with no age restrictions, and raises revenue through advertising and paid-for promotions by porn producers.

Petition highlighting failure of Pornhub to protect rape and revenge porn victims has attracted over , signatures. It is free to access, with no age restrictions, and raises revenue through advertising and paid-for promotions by porn producers. Over the past year the company has faced multiple accusations that rape and abuse videos were widely posted on the site. The petition was started by a group called Exodus Cry in the US but is being supported by activists in the UK, where Mindgeek also has offices. Mindgeek — based legally in Luxembourg but with offices in Montreal, London, Nicosia and Los Angeles — denies the allegations made in the petition, insisting that it does have thorough procedures for removing illegal content.